Yesterday we talked about pain and pleasure and how you can use them to stop procrastinating. But I know some of you still feel a bit confused, so today I’m going to share with you 4 simple steps to help you to take action immediately.
What I want you to do right now is to take out a piece of paper, and write down 4 goals you have been procrastinating for so long, be it you want to talk to your partner about your feelings, or you need to schedule an important meeting. Write down the four goals you have been delaying but are important to you.
Afterwards, write down the pain you associate with achieving the goals. For example, I have a bad habit of peeling finger nails, and I really want to stop myself from doing that. But there’s always pain involved to stop this habit. I need to practice discipline and constantly tell myself it’s an ugly thing to do. So it’s really a pain to me.
After writing down the pain, write down what is the pleasure you can bring to yourself for not achieving the goals. A lot of time the reason why we continue our bad habits, is because there’s pleasure brought by them. If I continue to peel my finger, I indulge in lack of self-discipline.
Third step, write down what is the pain for not achieving your goals. What is the pain for me for not achieving my goal of stop peeling finger nail? I will constantly feel a low self-esteem. I will feel that I can’t control myself. Think deeper into this question, and ask yourself what is the pain it can bring to you, if you continue to do this/not do this in the next 5 to 10 years.
Last but not least, what is the pleasure if you manage to achieve it in the next 5 to 10 years? For my fingernail peeling habit, if I manage to get rid of this habit, I have discipline, appreciation for myself, I love myself because I don’t want to harm my own body. It will give me a sense of empowerment, not from others, but from myself within.
Delve deeper into these 4 questions. Tomorrow I will share more how you can make use of your answer today to help you become a better person and achieve your goals.